The Perfect Valentine's Gift

I'm sure you've seen the newspaper ads, the commercials on TV, the banner ads on the Internet. Everyone wants you to buy diamonds, roses and chocolate for the woman you love, on the day celebrating love. That's what she wants, right? Or, is it just what the media and advertising tries to convince you she wants.

I'm sure that while women may have their share of dreams involving huge bouquets of red roses, baby blue boxes from Tiffany's and gourmet chocolates, the gift that really makes them swoon? It doesn't cost a thing.

Does she tell you often that you don't take time to listen? Don't confuse listening and giving advice with listening from your heart. True intimacy begins with listening with an open heart and not from your frame of reference. True intimacy begins with understanding the other person's frame of reference. It doesn't necessarily mean agreeing with her just because you think she wants you to, it means honoring her and holding her in compassion.

And if you're wondering who's telling her what it is she'd like for Valentine's Day, don't worry. It's in every magazine we subscribe to. Oh, and the gift that makes her swoon? Just hearing her man say "I love you" and knowing he means it.