Reign in Bad Behavior

Recently a man admitted to me that he had been somewhat narcissistic in his relationship with his wife. What he meant was he had been somewhat self-centered, maybe even brusque and difficult to deal with. Even though he knew his behavior had been inappropriate, he did not stop to think about the impact on the relationship. Now he was unsure about her feelings toward him.

I think this happens to a lot of us. Some of our behaviors are inappropriate or even dysfunctional and then we wonder why our partners are cool toward us or less than responsive.

Think about how you have been relating to your spouse or partner. If it has been less than respectful and loving, maybe it's time for a change. The fact is you are probably denying yourself a lot of affection and tenderness (not to mention real connection) when your behavior is allowed to be so unpleasant. It's your job to monitor your own behavior.