How to Lighten Your Own Load During The Holiday Season

• Initiate a discussion with your partner about what is stressing you AND her. Get honest and don't try to be so invulnerable.

• Ask your best friend to be an "accountability partner" to remind you when you seem to be overdoing work or other commitments.

• Get an electronic book reader and download some inspirational books to keep close by when you travel. (You can also download some really good sermons if you like).

• If your dad is still living, re-connect on a more personal level this year. Ask his counsel on work matters, then on personal matters as well. He'll likely appreciate being asked.

• Focus on being "in the moment" with your children and family. Do your best to tune out work and other distractions and just enjoy their presence in your life.