Control

Men are often accused of trying to "control" things. The problem is, of course, when we bring those heavy handed approaches into relationships with friends or family. Then we get into trouble--not because we are wrong necessarily, but because we don't take into account others' feelings and their input into the situation. Ask yourself these questions:

• Have you been told by your partner or others that you try to control them or events?

• Is it unfair that men get accused of needing to control?

• Am I confused because I get rewarded for control at work only to be criticized for it at home?

• What are we after when we try to control events? What is it that WE are needing?

• What is the spiritual value of giving up control?

• How does controlling behavior hurt relationships?

• Domestic violence is sometimes seen as control going "over the top." Why? What is the danger here?

• What is the worst that can happen if we cede some control to others in a given situation?

  As you prayerfully think about this issue, ask your partner or a close friend for some feedback about how they see you on this issue.