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|
% answering agree or strongly agree
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Work
|
|
2010
|
2011
|
| I tend to work more hours than my job requires. |
|
52% |
52% |
| I work more than 40 hours a week because my job requires it. |
|
59% |
54% |
| I am able to control my work hours and generally work 40 hours a week or less. |
|
32% |
37% |
| My work causes me to miss family events. |
|
39% |
34% |
| I get a great deal of satisfaction from my work even though it requires long hours. |
|
67% |
62% |
| The primary reason I work hard is to maintain or improve our standard of living. |
|
69% |
68% |
| I feel a great deal of pressure to provide well for my family. |
|
65% |
70% |
| I have a strong sense of identity with my job. |
|
76% |
71% |
| I have had conflicts with my spouse over the number of hours I work. |
|
37% |
34% |
| I sometimes bring the frustrations of work home with me. |
|
68% |
68% |
| I am able to forget about work once I am home with my family. |
|
54% |
48% |
| My partner understands the work commitments required of me and is supportive. |
|
71% |
71% |
| I would rather work fewer hours and make less money. |
|
22% |
25% |
| I sometimes get so absorbed in my work I forget about the time. |
|
60% |
63% |
| I have received promotions which required a substantially larger amount of my time. |
|
33% |
39% |
| I am able to go on vacation or weekend trips and forget about work. |
|
67% |
64% |
| I tend to check my voicemail or email when I am with my family. |
|
59% |
64% |
| I am aware that work takes time away from my family but I don't feel I have a choice. |
|
50% |
50% |
| I have turned down promotions in order to have more time with my family. |
|
23% |
24% |
| If I am honest with myself, I am a workaholic. |
|
26% |
33% |
| My work and personal life are in balance, more or less. |
|
68% |
62% |
| I have no real hobbies which occupy my time. |
|
31% |
33% |
| I feel a lot of pressure to increase my family's standard of living. |
|
46% |
52% |
| I have no one I can really talk to about work demands. |
|
32% |
36% |
| I miss being able to take more time with my family. |
|
45% |
51% |
| Frequently I am too tired to really enjoy downtime or family time. |
|
49% |
48% |
Connection
|
| I have no close male friends with whom I can talk openly about personal issues. |
|
38% |
46% |
| I sometimes feel isolated about my personal life. |
|
54% |
65% |
| I can talk openly with my partner about almost everything. |
|
71% |
68% |
| My partner understands me and is supportive. |
|
81% |
79% |
| I would like to be in a small group of men with whom I could share my thoughts and feelings. |
|
55% |
62% |
| I would like to be more able to open up and talk with other men about personal issues. |
|
66% |
67% |
| Most people would probably say I am a "private" person and do not talk much about personal issues. |
|
59% |
61% |
| I have 5 or more "good friends" with whom I can be myself. |
|
58% |
51% |
Communication
|
| My partner and I communicate well with few problems. |
|
62% |
60% |
| My partner would like me to talk more. |
|
59% |
61% |
| I do not enjoy talking to my partner about our relationship. |
|
28% |
36% |
| I have concerns about my marriage/relationship I have not shared with my partner. |
|
32% |
39% |
| I can sense when my partner has a concern and invite a discussion. |
|
80% |
73% |
| There are a number of issues my partner and I simply cannot discuss. |
|
31% |
37% |
| My partner does not understand the many pressures I am under. |
|
37% |
43% |
| I enjoy "quiet communion time" with my partner. |
|
75% |
70% |
| My partner and I talk at least a few minutes each day about things other than "logistics and schedules". |
|
72% |
72% |
| I do not have problems communicating at work, but I do at home. |
|
28% |
32% |
| I am difficult to communicate with at home. |
|
20% |
30% |
| I sometimes do not treat my partner very well. |
|
46% |
46% |
| I tend to avoid conflict in close relationships. |
|
62% |
63% |
| My partner and I can discuss differences calmly and come to agreement. |
|
72% |
63% |
| My partner and I are in agreement about most family issues. |
|
76% |
75% |
Personal Intimacy
|
| My partner and I have a rewarding, close relationship. |
|
70% |
68% |
| I wish my partner were more supportive of me. |
|
33% |
35% |
| I have a satisfying sex life with my partner. |
|
54% |
51% |
| I consider my partner to also be a best friend with whom I can talk freely. |
|
81% |
77% |
| I have lost the enthusiasm for my relationship with my partner. |
|
17% |
26% |
| I would like to be able to open up more with my partner. |
|
54% |
56% |
| My partner has suggested counseling but I have resisted. |
|
5% |
6% |
| I enjoy sex and rarely, if ever, have difficulty in this area. |
|
65% |
62% |
| I have never had an affair or cheated on my partner. |
|
75% |
78% |
| I would like more conversation with my partner. |
|
61% |
66% |
| I don't feel I know how to have a productive conversation with my partner on sensitive issues. |
|
34% |
42% |
| I sometimes am critical of my partner around others. |
|
24% |
24% |
| I would like more sex from my partner. |
|
62% |
63% |
| I almost never miss family activities and I am fully present when participating. |
|
76% |
74% |
Family life
|
| Our family typically has at least one meal together. |
|
74% |
74% |
| My children openly share their feelings and concerns. |
|
58% |
63% |
| I can be a "best friend" to my children and listen without offering advice or judgment. |
|
62% |
60% |
| Our family frequently does things together (other than meals). |
|
82% |
79% |
| I am disappointed in the amount of together time in my family. |
|
41% |
42% |
| My children would say I am very involved in their lives. |
|
71% |
66% |
| My children are involved in church activities other than worship. |
|
47% |
49% |
| I make sure my children are in church almost every week. |
|
43% |
48% |
| Our family has regular devotions or prayer. |
|
41% |
37% |
| I am viewed by my family as a strong spiritual leader. |
|
49% |
50% |
| My children enjoy family time together. |
|
80% |
79% |
| My partner and I are in agreement about issues involving children including discipline. |
|
63% |
63% |
| I wish I could communicate better with my children. |
|
48% |
52% |
| My children would say I criticize them a lot. |
|
19% |
20% |
| My family members talk openly about issues that are bothering them. |
|
66% |
62% |
Spiritual
|
| My spiritual life is satisfying. |
|
70% |
66% |
| I have a strong faith relationship with God. |
|
75% |
78% |
| I pray regularly (at least weekly). |
|
81% |
82% |
| I am involved in at least one organization that helps others. |
|
77% |
76% |
| I attend church/worship regularly. |
|
73% |
74% |
| I am actively involved in some church activity other than attending worship. |
|
67% |
65% |
| I usually make time for regular church attendance. |
|
72% |
74% |
Personal
|
| I do not have a problem with drugs (including alcohol), pornography, or womanizing. |
|
76% |
75% |
| I have no serious "dark side" that I would never want exposed. |
|
71% |
69% |
| I have friends who trust me to listen without judgment when they are having problems. |
|
86% |
84% |
| I am comfortable talking with other men about my personal life, beliefs. |
|
74% |
73% |
| I have made serious attempts to work on my own "issues" through counseling or self-study. |
|
78% |
82% |
| I believe men should be able to handle problems on their own without resorting to counseling or coaching. |
|
23% |
25% |
| I feel I have some unfinished business with my father (living or dead). |
|
39% |
44% |
| My father provided an excellent role model for my life. |
|
53% |
56% |
| My father was absent (emotionally or physically) or critical of me. |
|
53% |
54% |
| I take good care of my health and have regular check-ups. |
|
83% |
84% |
