Here are the results of the online survey. Items showing a 5% or more change (since our last survey) are highlighted in red. This is not a scientific survey — it is biased in favor of church-going men, our target audience (note the per cent saying they regularly attend church).

% answering agree or strongly agree
Work Last Year Recent
I tend to work more hours than my job requires. 52% 52%
I work more than 40 hours a week because my job requires it. 59% 54%
I am able to control my work hours and generally work 40 hours a week or less. 32% 37%
My work causes me to miss family events. 39% 34%
I get a great deal of satisfaction from my work even though it requires long hours. 67% 62%
The primary reason I work hard is to maintain or improve our standard of living. 69% 68%
I feel a great deal of pressure to provide well for my family. 65% 70%
I have a strong sense of identity with my job. 76% 71%
I have had conflicts with my spouse over the number of hours I work. 37% 34%
I sometimes bring the frustrations of work home with me. 68% 68%
I am able to forget about work once I am home with my family. 54% 48%
My partner understands the work commitments required of me and is supportive. 71% 71%
I would rather work fewer hours and make less money. 22% 25%
I sometimes get so absorbed in my work I forget about the time. 60% 63%
I have received promotions which required a substantially larger amount of my time. 33% 39%
I am able to go on vacation or weekend trips and forget about work. 67% 64%
I tend to check my voicemail or email when I am with my family. 59% 64%
I am aware that work takes time away from my family but I don’t feel I have a choice. 50% 50%
I have turned down promotions in order to have more time with my family. 23% 24%
If I am honest with myself, I am a workaholic. 26% 33%
My work and personal life are in balance, more or less. 68% 62%
I have no real hobbies which occupy my time. 31% 33%
I feel a lot of pressure to increase my family’s standard of living. 46% 52%
I have no one I can really talk to about work demands. 32% 36%
I miss being able to take more time with my family. 45% 51%
Frequently I am too tired to really enjoy downtime or family time. 49% 48%
Connection
I have no close male friends with whom I can talk openly about personal issues. 38% 46%
I sometimes feel isolated about my personal life. 54% 65%
I can talk openly with my partner about almost everything. 71% 68%
My partner understands me and is supportive. 81% 79%
I would like to be in a small group of men with whom I could share my thoughts and feelings. 55% 62%
I would like to be more able to open up and talk with other men about personal issues. 66% 67%
Most people would probably say I am a “private” person and do not talk much about personal issues. 59% 61%
I have 5 or more “good friends” with whom I can be myself. 58% 51%
Communication
My partner and I communicate well with few problems. 62% 60%
My partner would like me to talk more. 59% 61%
I do not enjoy talking to my partner about our relationship. 28% 36%
I have concerns about my marriage/relationship I have not shared with my partner. 32% 39%
I can sense when my partner has a concern and invite a discussion. 80% 73%
There are a number of issues my partner and I simply cannot discuss. 31% 37%
My partner does not understand the many pressures I am under. 37% 43%
I enjoy “quiet communion time” with my partner. 75% 70%
My partner and I talk at least a few minutes each day about things other than “logistics and schedules”. 72% 72%
I do not have problems communicating at work, but I do at home. 28% 32%
I am difficult to communicate with at home. 20% 30%
I sometimes do not treat my partner very well. 46% 46%
I tend to avoid conflict in close relationships. 62% 63%
My partner and I can discuss differences calmly and come to agreement. 72% 63%
My partner and I are in agreement about most family issues. 76% 75%
Personal Intimacy
My partner and I have a rewarding, close relationship. 70% 68%
I wish my partner were more supportive of me. 33% 35%
I have a satisfying sex life with my partner. 54% 51%
I consider my partner to also be a best friend with whom I can talk freely. 81% 77%
I have lost the enthusiasm for my relationship with my partner. 17% 26%
I would like to be able to open up more with my partner. 54% 56%
My partner has suggested counseling but I have resisted. 5% 6%
I enjoy sex and rarely, if ever, have difficulty in this area. 65% 62%
I have never had an affair or cheated on my partner. 75% 78%
I would like more conversation with my partner. 61% 66%
I don’t feel I know how to have a productive conversation with my partner on sensitive issues. 34% 42%
I sometimes am critical of my partner around others. 24% 24%
I would like more sex from my partner. 62% 63%
I almost never miss family activities and I am fully present when participating. 76% 74%
Family life
Our family typically has at least one meal together. 74% 74%
My children openly share their feelings and concerns. 58% 63%
I can be a “best friend” to my children and listen without offering advice or judgment. 62% 60%
Our family frequently does things together (other than meals). 82% 79%
I am disappointed in the amount of together time in my family. 41% 42%
My children would say I am very involved in their lives. 71% 66%
My children are involved in church activities other than worship. 47% 49%
I make sure my children are in church almost every week. 43% 48%
Our family has regular devotions or prayer. 41% 37%
I am viewed by my family as a strong spiritual leader. 49% 50%
My children enjoy family time together. 80% 79%
My partner and I are in agreement about issues involving children including discipline. 63% 63%
I wish I could communicate better with my children. 48% 52%
My children would say I criticize them a lot. 19% 20%
My family members talk openly about issues that are bothering them. 66% 62%
Spiritual
My spiritual life is satisfying. 70% 66%
I have a strong faith relationship with God. 75% 78%
I pray regularly (at least weekly). 81% 82%
I am involved in at least one organization that helps others. 77% 76%
I attend church/worship regularly. 73% 74%
I am actively involved in some church activity other than attending worship. 67% 65%
I usually make time for regular church attendance. 72% 74%
Personal
I do not have a problem with drugs (including alcohol), pornography, or womanizing. 76% 75%
I have no serious “dark side” that I would never want exposed. 71% 69%
I have friends who trust me to listen without judgment when they are having problems. 86% 84%
I am comfortable talking with other men about my personal life, beliefs. 74% 73%
I have made serious attempts to work on my own “issues” through counseling or self-study. 78% 82%
I believe men should be able to handle problems on their own without resorting to counseling or coaching. 23% 25%
I feel I have some unfinished business with my father (living or dead). 39% 44%
My father provided an excellent role model for my life. 53% 56%
My father was absent (emotionally or physically) or critical of me. 53% 54%
I take good care of my health and have regular check-ups. 83% 84%