Survey Results

Men in Balance Survey Results

Work

I tend to work more hours than my job requires.

I work more than 40 hours a week because my job requires it.

I am able to control my work hours and generally work 40 hours a week or less.

My work causes me to miss family events.

I get a great deal of satisfaction from my work even though it requires long hours.

The primary reason I work hard is to maintain or improve our standard of living.

I feel a great deal of pressure to provide well for my family.

I have a strong sense of identity with my job.

I have had conflicts with my spouse over the number of hours I work.

I sometimes bring the frustrations of work home with me.

I am able to forget about work once I am home with my family.

My partner understands the work commitments required of me and is supportive.

I would rather work fewer hours and make less money.

I sometimes get so absorbed in my work I forget about the time.

I have received promotions which required a substantially larger amount of my time.

I am able to go on vacation or weekend trips and forget about work.

I tend to check my voicemail or email when I am with my family.

I am aware that work takes time away from my family but I don't feel I have a choice.

I have turned down promotions in order to have more time with my family.

If I am honest with myself, I am a workaholic.

My work and personal life are in balance, more or less.

I have no real hobbies which occupy my time.

I feel a lot of pressure to increase my family’s standard of living.

I have no one I can really talk to about work demands.

I miss being able to take more time with my family.

Frequently I am too tired to really enjoy downtime or family time.

Connection

I have no close male friends with whom I can talk openly about personal issues.

I sometimes feel isolated about my personal life.

I can talk openly with my partner about almost everything.

My partner understands me and is supportive.

I would like to be in a small group of men with whom I could share my thoughts and feelings.

I would like to be more able to open up and talk with other men about personal issues.

Most people would probably say I am a "private" person and do not talk much about personal issues.

I have 5 or more "good friends" with whom I can be myself.

Communication

My partner and I communicate well with few problems.

My partner would like me to talk more.

I do not enjoy talking to my partner about our relationship.

I have concerns about my marriage/relationship I have not shared with my partner.

I can sense when my partner has a concern and invite a discussion.

There are a number of issues my partner and I simply cannot discuss.

My partner does not understand the many pressures I am under.

I enjoy "quiet communion time" with my partner.

My partner and I talk at least a few minutes each day about things other than "logistics and schedules".

I do not have problems communicating at work, but I do at home.

I am difficult to communicate with at home.

I sometimes do not treat my partner very well.

I tend to avoid conflict in close relationships.

My partner and I can discuss differences calmly and come to agreement.

My partner and I are in agreement about most family issues.

Personal Intimacy

My partner and I have a rewarding, close relationship.

I wish my partner were more supportive of me.

I have a satisfying sex life with my partner.

I consider my partner to also be a best friend with whom I can talk freely.

I have lost the enthusiasm for my relationship with my partner.

I would like to be able to open up more with my partner.

My partner has suggested counseling but I have resisted.

I enjoy sex and rarely, if ever, have difficulty in this area. 

I have never had an affair or cheated on my partner. 

I would like more conversation with my partner.

I don’t feel I know how to have a productive conversation with my partner on sensitive issues.

I sometimes am critical of my partner around others.

I would like more sex from my partner.

I almost never miss family activities and I am fully present when participating.

Family life

Our family typically has at least one meal together.

My children openly share their feelings and concerns.

I can be a "best friend" to my children and listen without offering advice or judgment.

Our family frequently does things together (other than meals).

I am disappointed in the amount of together time in my family.

My children would say I am very involved in their lives.

My children are involved in church activities other than worship.

I make sure my children are in church almost every week.

Our family has regular devotions or prayer.

I am viewed by my family as a strong spiritual leader.

My children enjoy family time together.

My partner and I are in agreement about issues involving children including discipline.

I wish I could communicate better with my children.

My children would say I criticize them a lot.

My family members talk openly about issues that are bothering them.

Spiritual

My spiritual life is satisfying.

I have a strong faith relationship with God. 

I pray regularly (at least weekly). 

I am involved in at least one organization that helps others. 

I attend church/worship regularly.

I am actively involved in some church activity other than attending worship.

I usually make time for regular church attendance.

Personal

I do not have a problem with drugs (including alcohol), pornography, or womanizing.

I have no serious "dark side" that I would never want exposed. 

I have friends who trust me to listen without judgment when they are having problems.

I am comfortable talking with other men about my personal life, beliefs. 

I have made serious attempts to work on my own "issues" through counseling or self-study.

I believe men should be able to handle problems on their own without resorting to counseling or coaching.

I feel I have some unfinished business with my father (living or dead).

My father provided an excellent role model for my life.

My father was absent (emotionally or physically) or critical of me.

I take good care of my health and have regular check-ups.