Pop Quiz

DUMC Men’s Ministry 1/20/08 Pop Quiz

1. Women tend to do most of the “relationship” work both in a marriage and in maintaining relationships with friends, family, etc.
2. Men tend to feel “rejected” as easily as women in a relationship.
3. Men and women see very differently key issues such as “security,” “intimacy,” “trust,” even “love.”
4. Men tend to insist on “respect,” whereas women tend to focus more on “love and acceptance.”
5. A key area of conflict in male/female relationships is the fact that each gives the other what they think the other wants in their own “currency” or what they feel is important.
6. Men typically tend to treat their wife more or less the way they saw their father treat their mother.
7. Husbands tend to have more things they cannot discuss with their spouse than wives do.
8. In family spiritual matters, women are more likely to take the lead.
9. Men typically want to be able to open up more with their wives or partners, but tend to shut down when the relationship gets into conflict.
10. When a woman offers criticism of her male partner, she sees it as a loving gesture lovingly given to help the partner be successful, but the man typically feels hurt or rejected.
11. In conversation, men tend to be “solution focused” whereas women tend to be “process focused.”
12. Men tend to see a relationship as being on “auto pilot,” meaning that it should require little maintenance on an ongoing basis.

(ANSWERS: All are true except possibly #7!) 

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